How to Combat Negative Self-Talk
I’m going to be honest: sometimes I feel like I’m falling short—whether as a father, a husband, or a leader at work. And if I am being completely honest, those negative thoughts and doubts creep in more often than you probably think.Seemingly, every day, at some point, the negative self-talk creeps in, and it’s easy to think, “I’m not good enough.”
It Never Makes Things Better
I’ve noticed that this kind of thinking doesn’t make me show up any better in these areas of life. In fact, the more I lean into negativity, the more it negatively affects how I perform. It becomes a cycle, and if I’m not careful, I risk getting stuck in a rut.A bad morning leads to a bad day, which can easily turn into a tough week and quickly turn into a bad month. Negativity builds momentum like everything else, and sometimes, it can feel like it just gets away from you.
What I’ve Learned
Here’s what I’ve learned: there’s a big difference between telling yourself, “I’m not good enough,” and saying, “I can do better.”It might seem like semantics, but one of those thoughts reinforces failure while the other leaves room for growth.
Yes, I can always do better, and there’s nothing wrong with recognizing that. But I’ve also realized that I need to acknowledge when I’m doing my best—and that is enough.
If I’m pushing myself, showing up, and staying committed, that effort matters. I know I won’t be a perfect husband, father, or leader, but I also know that I am constantly pushing myself to be the best.
One Thing That Has Helped
One thing that has helped shift my mindset is thinking about how I’d talk to my kids. If they were struggling with school, sports, or anything else, how would I speak to them? I wouldn’t tear them down or let them spiral into negativity.
I’d encourage them, hold them accountable, and help them see the lesson in their challenges.
Why shouldn’t I talk to myself that way?
WHY TRAIN HARD
This is why TRAINING HARD is a non-negotiable part of my day.No matter how much self-doubt or negative talk is bouncing around in my head, a hard workout is the ultimate reset.
It’s a win that I control. I can leave it all on the floor and walk away knowing I gave my best. That confidence bleeds into other parts of my life and helps me tackle the harder stuff with a clear head and renewed energy.
Next time you feel negativity creeping in, remind yourself to speak kindly and focus on what’s within your control. You’re doing better than you think.
And if you can get a workout in, it’ll only make things better.
